Valentines Day 2013

Valentine's Day is too mainstream.

This year, our 1st year as a married couple, we decided to take it easy... or so I thought.

Wednesday evening, I was in casual work outfit as Rockstar had food-poisoning and wasn't well enough to eat out. After work, Rockstar said to me, "Let's go Puzzini". Puzinni is kinda special to us because there's where we dated. A simple Swedish meal with set dinner going for RM16.50 which included bread and butter, soup, drink and main course. Simple, and it brought back memories. I have to say that the food quality has improved. 

Thursday evening, I was in my Pasar Malam outfit. After song practice for my twinnie's wedding, Rockstar said, "Let's go dinner." And it being Valentne's Day night, most restaurant's were full and those that we wanted to go, had queues till the Petaling Street :) So we finally settled on what we both enjoy - Shihlin Fried Chicken. Happy Box Set comes with rice, chicken and drinks for only RM10.50 each.

I thought this year Valentines Day was simple, nothing extravagant and just plain comfortable.

Yet, Rockstar surprised me again.. back at home. 

A Longines watch....

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Tomorrow marks the 5 month being married to this man.. and I can say that I love him more every single day. Ok... time to stop being so mushy.

Am I with the right person?

When Rockstar and I were dating, there were many times that I ask myself this question. And Rockstar, being the deep thinker philosopher guy, he told me this... which I thought it make sense. Every since, I've tried telling others when they asked me this kind of questions... but its hard to put in in the right words. 

However, I read this on the web and found it to absolutely right on the dot.. So yeah, read it and let me know if you agree with me or not. :)

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AM I WITH THE RIGHT PARTNER?

During a seminar, a woman asked," How do I know if I am with the right person?"

The author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, "It depends. Is that your partner?" In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?" Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind replied the author.

Here's the answer.

Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love.

People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet."Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU.

Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It's a natural cycle of EVERY relationship.

Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, "Am I with the right person?" And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when relationships breakdown.

The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the person you found.

People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfilment  Extramarital fulfilment comes in all shapes and sizes.

Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it.

I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later.

Because (listen carefully to this):

The key to succeeding in a Relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the Person you found.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it.

Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner), Just as there are physical laws Of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable.

Love is therefore a "decision". Not just a feeling.

Remember this always: God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let GO..

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♥ :)

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And in case anyone is wondering, yes... I did married the right person. And yes, that means working hard, time and effort and energy in making him the right one :)

Hatyai : Eating & Shopping Trip (Part 2)

Hat Yai night markets only opens from Thursday to Sunday. We caught a tuk tuk and the driver brought us to the Asean Night Market about 15 mins away from the town center. We arrived about 5pm, but it was slightly too early as quite a number of shops were not opened yet. I would recommend going about 6pm. 

The Asian Night Market sells lots of food, clothings, shoes, 2nd-hand clothes and items, accessories and bags. And it was all so cheap that I went crazy... sort off. :) How not to when dresses and shirts and shoes are going for 100-150 baht = RM10-15 each. 

Food was abundance. Right in the middle of the market, they were selling pork. So we stopped for pork knuckles rice, fried pork/ pork chop rice and pork meat noodles for dinner... yes, again. Even though almost every table was filled and streams of customers flowed in and out, food arrived quickly  The pork knuckles was tender and well-cooked. The fried pork was crispy and slight burned. The noodles was tasty with a slight saltiness to it, different from Cantonese noodles. Very delicious and tasty. The only con is that there is no menu in English. Its authentically Thai. Just look around and point at what others are eating :)

I love going to night markets because its so colourful and busy and interesting. As the sky turns dark and the lights of the stalls got brighter, we stop for a breather outside the market, just to take it all in. The night ended with an absolutely delicious berry+milk yoghurt dessert concoction. Your cup with be filled with yoghurt and topped it with 3 toppings of your choice. 29 baht each. Bliss... 

Next morning, not so bright and early, we headed out for brunch. Pork again. Noodles, rice and everything pork. I think I had eaten enough pork to last for the rest of the year.:)

With just a few hours left before catching the train at 4pm, we wandered the streets of Hat Yai. Taking in the sights, the smell, and the taste of it. We stopped by this stall, just opposite the Lee Garden Plaza, which sold mega humongous prawns and skinny legged quails. Alas, we didn't try them but we did have the sticky mango rice, one and only we had in Hat Yai. 

And no, I didn't make that little boy so angry. He was running out in and out the shop, shooting his toy gun. Then he sat in front of the television and watch a war/army/guerrillas movie with lots of blood and shooting. He looked up just as I took a picture of him. This is evidence to what violence can do to children. 

The trip ended on a sweet note, with frozen cold ice-cream  cum yoghurt folded into rolls, arranged nicely in a cup, topped with cream, marshmallows and berries.. food heaven!!! 69 baht. 

There was just to many things to see do and I wished we had time for other sights like the floating market, the waterfalls, the hills, the beaches. As the train toot-toot out the station, I made a promise to myself that I will be back. 

Sawasdee ka Hat Yai!

Laew Phop Kan Mai Na Ka.